Surviving Match: Personal Stories

Match.

 

As I wrote this, the word stayed alone on the page for several days.

 

I nodded enthusiastically when this project was proposed, but deep down I heard a sigh.

You can do it.
You will get through all of this.

 

Match.

 

I spent two years applying for internship- it nearly crushed me. The rejection triggered every what if? and insecurity I had. I was also angry; Why me? What am I getting out of this? Where’s the return for all I’ve invested? Here’s what was good about this, I was forced to ask the most important question about my career. IS THIS WORTH IT?

 

Going after a big dream means that inevitably you will be rejected. You will be rejected many times. The bigger the dream, the more rejection you’ll encounter. I once read that the pain of being rejected means that you take your work seriously (Resilience: Facing Down Rejection and Criticism on the Road to Success by Mark McGuiness has helpful tips). It’s important to you, so being told “No” is going to hurt. Rejection doesn’t mean that you’re not worthy. You’re going through what others before you have gone through to reach their goals. Here’s how I managed:

 

Keep Your Heart Open: Excellent advice from author Melody Beattie (Journey to the Heart). Adjusting to an internship that had chosen me, rather than my choosing it, was challenging. I reminded myself that there are always opportunities to learn and grow. This helped me to be more receptive and gave me space to learn a tremendous amount. It helped that I found an internship I really wanted, but without acceptance and openness I would have missed all it had to offer.

 

Meditate: No. I’m not on the mindfulness bandwagon. I began meditating when I was in college and I did it the hard way, with a candle! There are lots more user friendly options now. You’ll gain much needed clarity, decrease stress, and gain a perspective on the present.

 

Share: The other intern and I regularly share our experiences. It’s helped tremendously to have someone to talk to. Find someone who can appreciate your unique form of expression; if you need to laugh, cry or shout they will let you do that without judgment. Remember to do the same for them.

 

Plan: Think about your career as an organism living in a dynamic world, subject to the same law of uncertainty that you are. Setbacks are just colds that will soon dissipate. This is part of the process-not the end. What’s Next?

 

On your journey to the next great adventure remember that learning to handle rejection effectively will prime you to be even more successful during your next project. People who haven’t had a chance to learn from rejection don’t develop effective coping skills. And guess what happens to them. All Great Dreams begin with the Dreamer. Since you’re reading this you’re still here. And that’s all you need.

 

 

I made it!
Margarita Lorence

–Margarita Lorence
WKPIC Intern
2012-2013

Friday Factoids: So, You Think You Know About Mental Health Issues?

 

John M. Grohol, Psy.D, listed the Top 10 Myths About Mental Health at Pychcentral. Despite a lot of community education in the last few years, many of these myths remain firmly planted in the minds and hearts of the general public.

 

Let’s examine and dispel the myths in order to gain a better understanding of disorders that trouble hundreds of thousands of individuals. Listed below are the first 5 common myths:

 

1.     Mental health problems are uncommon.
False! The National Institute of Mental Health estimates that 1 out of every 5 Americans will have a diagnosable mental disorder within their lifetimes.

 

2.     Mental health problems are caused by the person suffering from them.askstephan
Mental health problems arise from a complex combination of indiviudal, medical, and social factors. Dr. Grohol correctly notes that people must take responsibility for their own thoughts, feelings, and behavior associated with disorders; however, they are not to blame for them. It is essential that people struggling with mental health problems take responsibility, NOT blame. There is a difference.

 

3.     Mental health problems are purely biological or genetic in nature.
Mental health problems come from many causes, and usually not just one. They are more than bad choices, bad genes, or bad chemical imbalances. Many issues and vulnerabilities work together to create them. That’s why they can’t be solved with just one strategy, like a particular pill, or a certain style of psychotherapy.

 

4.      Mental health disorders are often life-long and difficult to treat.
Many mental health problems are short term, and can be resolved with recovery-based treatment strategies. In fact, as Dr. Grohol notes, most medications (with a few notable exceptions, such as those prescribed for bipolar disorder and schizophrenia) prescribed for mental disorders should be taken for short-term (under a year) symptom relief.

 

5.      Psychotherapy takes forever and gets into childhood issues.
We probably have Dr. Freud to thank for this one (he was actually a neurologist, by the way). The system of therapy associated with Dr. Freud and often portrayed in movies and on television is psychoanalysis, which fits this stereotype. Modern psychotherapy approaches do not. Most use a cognitive-behavioral approach which is short-term and solution-focused. Cognitive-behavioral approaches help people identify irrational thinking that leads to illness-creating behavior and emotions. It is often possible to correct irrational thinking in a matter of weeks or a few months.

 

 

David J. Wright, MA., MSW
WKPIC Doctoral Intern

 

 

 

Continuing Education Opportunity

Former intern Margarita Lorence sent word about a seminar at Vanderbilt that could be useful to staff and students:

 

The route to psychosis: what differentiates individuals with psychotic experiences with and without a ‘need-for-care’?

 

It is increasingly recognized that there is a thread of continuity between health and psychosis. Large-scale surveys have confirmed the high incidence of seemingly benign positive symptoms in the general population, and high ‘schizotypes’ resemble psychotic patients on a number of experimental and epidemiological correlates. However most of the evidence for the psychosis continuum is based on psychometric identification of psychotic-like experiences, which some authors have argued do not capture the true essence of psychosis. This talk will present a range of studies, using different methodologies, of individuals who experience full-blown psychotic experiences but are not in need of care.  The findings broadly support the predictions made by cognitive models of psychosis. Specifically, it will be demonstrated that maladaptive appraisals and response styles are key in differentiating individuals displaying psychotic experiences with and without a ‘need for care’. The implications for the psychological route to psychosis will be discussed.

  

Thursday, September 19th, 2013
4:10pm
112 Wilson Hall

 

For more information, please see the flier at  Continuing Education: Vanderbilt.

 

Thank you, Margarita!

 

Commonly Abused Drugs: Names and Street Names

 

 

The National Institute on Drug Abuse  (NIDA) has a lot of resources for students and clinicians wanting to learn more about alcohol and drug abuse. Following our recent intern seminar on assessment of alcohol and drug use, our students requested a resource to help them recognize the names and street names of commonly abused drugs.

 

NIDA has just such a resource, in their Commonly Abused Drugs Chart and their Prescription Drug Abuse Chart. They also offer a very helpful Health Effects Chart.

 

Check these resources out. They have both street drugs of abuse and most common prescription drugs of abuse. The charts list street names, ways to use, and whether or not the drug is scheduled.

 

 

 

Nora S. Frank, BA CADC, CSC

 

 

Friday Factoids: SMILE!

 

In case you need a little something to tip your mood scale towards the side of happiness today, read on! The Facial Feedback Hypothesis suggests that you may have the ability to give yourself a little boost in mood–and it would only take a moment out of your busy day.  Robert Zajonc, Ph.D., former professor, Director of the Institute for Social Research, and Director for the Research Center of Group Dynamics at University of Michigan and Professor Emeritus of Psychology at Stanford University, believed that people could manipulate mood through a change in facial expression. Simply put: when we smile we become happier and when we frown we become sadder.

 

Dr. Zajonc explained that smiling causes facial muscles to stretch and tighten leading to a decrease in blood flow to the internal carotid artery, which is the route taken by much of the blood traveling to the brain.  The idea is that as blood flow decreases, so does brain temperature, which is believed to bring about more positive mood.  In contrast, as the muscles involved in frowning are tightened, the blood flow to the brain increases, increasing the temperature and, therefore, spurring a more negative mood.

 

Zajonc, R. B., Murphy, S. T. & Inglehart, M. (1989). Feeling and facial efference: Implications for the vascular theory of emotion Psychological Review, 96(3), 395-416.

 

Cassandra A. Sturycz, B.A.
Psychology Practicum Student